Unwinding Sexual Shame
Sexual shame has been imprinted on us through many different avenues and from a very young age. Some of us were shamed as children for touching our genitals, for experimenting or “playing doctor” with other children, for showing interest in, or even worse, having sex. Others carry shame because we were sexually abused or even knowingly or unknowingly abused others. Then there is the shame associated with our bodies and with the size or shape of our sexual parts. Yet it is all but taboo to talk about these matters.
The shame associated with sex runs deep and comes from a wide range of both cultural and personal experiences. It can even drive our behavior in unconscious ways. Shame is toxic, and toxicity kills. It kills our spirit, kills our joy, kills our ability to connect, kills love, and ultimately can even kill our bodies by creating anxiety, depression, and serious illness. Are you ready to change all of this?
Kim and Fred would like to invite you to a special weekend designed to help unwind the shame that we knowingly or unknowingly carry in our hearts, in our bodies, and in our psyche. By freeing ourselves of the heavy burden of shame, we can rekindle the beautiful sexual flame that is always there within us.
DATES: Fri. Oct. 18th at 7pm till Sun. Oct. 20th at 6pm
LOCATION: A beautiful, intimate workshop space in Berkeley, CA
SIZE: Class will be limited to 24 participants
COST: Sliding scale $240 to $480, (Let us know if the cost keeps you away.)
FOOD: Meals are not included, though snacks will be available.
We are asking everyone to prepay for this weekend event, as this makes greeting you at the door easier and more joyful. Please log in to PayPal and send payment to this address: firstname.lastname@example.org. And if PayPal doesn’t work for you, let us know. We offer a full refund up to 72 hours before the event, should you need to cancel.
What is “Unwinding Sexual Shame” all about? What will we be doing during this shame-busting weekend?
Healing shame is greatly facilitated by safe witnessing combined with acceptance and forgiveness. In this weekend, we will dive into deep, vulnerable sharing with a special focus on compassionate witnessing and being witnessed. A variety of empowering exercises and small group sharing will help us to unwind the shame within us. Together, we will build a strong field of love, care, and encouragement that will support each of us in peeling away the layers of shame that prevent us from being our biggest and brightest selves.
We will treat these most sensitive topics and everything shared with the utmost respect and compassion as we find ways to invite all who join us to fully honor and adore each person just as they are for who they are. And we will be holding everything shared with confidentiality.
Knowing that every exercise and experience is optional and adjustable to suit individual boundaries, some of the shame busting experiences we will invite are:
- Speaking our truth, our boundaries, our struggles, and our desires
- Deep connection and vulnerable sharing of our past shame stories
- Profound exercises which help to free buried shame in practical ways
- Building a solid field of human kindness and support
- Practicing the release of judgment, resistance, and patterns that keep us in the shame state of mind with a focus on acceptance and forgiveness
- Inspiring insight into ourselves and our patterned ideas around sexuality
- Ritual and ceremonial release of that which no longer serves, along with shedding old stories of mistakes and missteps
- Rewriting the socialized story of sex as it relates to our human existence
- Reclaiming our brilliance and creating new pathways to freedom and compassionate love
Note that there will be invitations in some exercises to remove all clothing, though this is always optional. Those who choose to keep clothes on can have an equally powerful and profound experience. You are always at choice. And though we will be honoring and stepping into our sexual vitality and wholeness, there will be no sexual touching of others. There will, however, be guided exercises involving sensual touch for meaningful connection.
Join us for this transformational weekend and become the juicy, alive and sexually activated human you were always meant to be.
– Friday, Oct. 18th, 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.
– Saturday, Oct. 19th, 10:00 a.m. – 10:00 p.m.
– Sunday, Oct. 20th, 10:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m.
Prerequisites: This workshop is for folk who are experienced in sex positive communities and workshops (i.e. HAI, ISTA, Tantra, etc.). Priority will be given to those on our mailing list and members of this Facebook group. If there are others you feel might benefit from this workshop, please contact us to discuss this.
If what we’ve presented here calls to you, we would love to have you join us in this beautifully intimate and vulnerable space. We will be creating a very safe container to support us all in going very deep into transformation realms and in empowering us to reclaim the vibrant sexual life that is our birthright. Take care and enjoy.
With profound love and caring,
Fred and Kim
Note: For those who are “mandated reporters” of abuse or violence, we ask that you only join us if you are able to hear experiences of past abuse or violence without reporting. This is vitally important to create a safe and compassionate container for sharing some of our deepest wounds. Please contact us if you have any questions about this.